Mar 16, 2020
Managing Stress and Anxiety While Selling Your Home
“Selling a home can be very stressful and produce a lot of anxiety.” — Nina Hermann
The easiest way to overwhelm yourself is to think of all the things you need to do at the same time. It doesn’t help. When people overwhelm themselves, it pushes them into a reflective state as opposed to taking action state. When you put a lot of things on your plate, then it will even push you into an inactive state where nothing gets done.
It can be paralyzing when you think about all those lists. In this week's episode, Nina Hermann welcomes Jason Schneider as her special guest as they talk about managing stress and anxiety while selling your home.
Part One of ‘Managing Stress and Anxiety While Selling Your Home’
Jason Schneider is the current president of the Institute of Neuro-Semantics USA. He has been in the business of coaching and training people to develop themselves personally and professionally using the technologies of NLP & coaching full time since 2010. Through his content, coaching, training, mentoring, and consulting, he aims to empower every student to experience more fulfillment in their own lives, and to live more congruently and authentically.
“You perceive the universe through a state of mind.” — Nina Hermann
The way you communicate reflects your behavior. Whatever state that you're in is going to determine how you interact and what other people pick up. In return, the recipient will filter your message based on whatever state that person is into. So, if someone's in a closed-off state, it doesn't matter what you're going to tell them.
Your messages are not going to get you the best of your potential. The first step before you can get in that state is to manage your feelings. Think about the activity that you can give your best to. Maybe you want to be focused. Perhaps you want to be more energized or more relaxed. Maybe you want to have peace, be appreciative, or be of service to somebody.
Sometimes are afraid about a meeting that's going to be coming up tomorrow. then. We get upset at ourselves. The state that we bring can determine whether we get ourselves into these downward spirals. On the other hand, we also have the option to bring ourselves into powerful and transcendent states that allow us to be excited about our conversations.
Here’s the reality of the situation. A lot of times, things aren’t going to go exactly as you planned. One of the best things that you can practice is acceptance. Accept that you're upset. That you're frustrated. When you use acceptance, it doesn't matter how deep you are into a negative spiral. Whatever emotion that you put on top of the pile will always influence and govern everything below, just like how a CEO oversees everything below it in the hierarchy.
Part Two of ‘Managing Stress and Anxiety While Selling Your Home’
Negotiation. It can be the most stressful and anxiety-producing part of the selling process. You get an offer. You’re offended that it's too low. You feel taken advantage of.
“Difficult negotiations are stressful.” — Nina Hermann (12:25-12:29)
A good negotiation always starts with a no. It's better to start with no. Then, work your way to a yes. It lets you make clear what you don't want. It establishes what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. If someone throws a low number, it's not about you.
If anything, it's more about them. There are many reasons why someone would do that. It's information that you can't learn from and then kind of roll it over into the next round of the negotiation, the next round of discussion. So, taking things personally is not going to help.
When we start to get anxious or frustrated by ourselves and the world, we tend to lose access to our resourcefulness. We tend to lose access to our resources that allow us to perform at our best. Practice being centered. That will be useful throughout that process. Especially in the process of selling your home.
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